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There was a time when the birth of a child was celebrated as the greatest gift imaginable. But in these materialistic days, that’s changing, and moms want more for their troubles.
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I’m with Ms. Grote. I appreciated the “help, love and emotional support” of my husband much more than I would have any baby bauble.
Paula, you beat me to it. Save the money for huggies and take a few midnight feedings.
The women with this mentality most likely expect both the bauble and the help with midnight feedings etc.
It’s pathetic and perverted.
I just remembered. I did get a push present! My sweet husband smuggled a pint of Ben & Jerry’s New York Super Fudge Chuck into the hospital for me. Perfect!
This is all a ploy of Planned Parenthood to push for smaller families!
You know there’s nothing wrong with the husband giving his wife a gift in appreciation but the expectation and that entitlement attitude is what is so wrong and off!
Not meaning to sound like an old lady–still in my forties–but this generation of young folks could be called The Entitled Generation. I walked into a Babies R Us recently and was aghast at all the gadgets people NEED for their babies.
But I have a question . . . if labor goes badly, if the mom can’t push the baby out and requires a C-section, or if there is something wrong with the baby, do the diamons, etc. get returned? Just wondering.
If the husband thinks of it on his own and it’s a real surprise it’s sweet, but a registry is tacky.
I didn’t have to push because my son is adopted but my aunt always gave each of her nieces a tiny gold baby ring with each new baby. I got the next to the last one before she died and I wear around my neck all the time.
This article grieved me. Husbands showing their love for their wives through practical help, emotional support, and the occasional well-timed, right-up-her-alley, I’ve-been-thinking-about-you gift? Great! Seeing the bearing of children as something beyond the call of duty, which no one should have to go through without a bauble-licious reward? Sad.
And then there’s this squirm-inducing quote (probably unintentional):
“I wear those [jewel-encrusted] rings every day,” Ms. Allen said. “They symbolize my kids. There’s something about them that’s even more weighty than my wedding band.”
I fear for this couple, if their marriage bond isn’t the anchor relationship in the family. (Of course, I may be reading too much into it)
Just one more way the really meaningful things in life are converted to good old materialism.
RR- I’ll second your squirm.
“Ben & Jerry’s New York Super Fudge Chuck”
CANNIBAL!
Three times my husband got me pregnant and sailed off to South America. Three times he brought back jewelry. He was on shore duty for the fourth child and I asked, “When are you going to South America?”
He went to San Diego for three weeks. That year I asked for a red worm bin for Christmas. He gave me emerald earrings in honor of the last child.
The kids know the story, of course, and loved to recognize “their” piece of jewelry–which I don’t wear very often. The best gift, however, is one we share: “Hi, Mom and Dad.” That’s what’s coming this Christmas.
And I’ll be wearing my emeralds.
RR, that bothered me too.
OK, I can see finding it really sweet if a husband decides on his own to commemorate the event with something like a mother’s necklace or a new camera or whatever. But the expectation seems weird–the baby is the big deal.
I was present for the birth of my sister’s second child. I stayed for a couple weeks, at the request of the parents. (They told me they’d buy my plane ticket if I came for two weeks–my sister had recovered slowly after her first baby and didn’t look forward to caring for a newborn and a two-year-old if she was equally weak, which she wasn’t.)
When we got home from the hospital, the new daddy called all of us into the master bedroom. The bed was covered with red roses–a dozen for each of us (Mommy, Daddy, first child, baby, and me). It was unanticipated and sweet, and I felt loved to be included in the gesture. (And at that point, they could afford a luxury like that, though today it would be a foolish splurge.)
I agree with VS and Kbells. It’s a nice gesture from an appreciative husband, but when it becomes expected and mandatory, well, we know now that we are in December where that leads.
Women have sure come a long way. Thanks, feminists.
Apparently having a baby is the woman’s favor to her husband.
Sickening!!!!!!
Kyle A,
I don’t think that is an entirely new thing, when I read Genesis 30. There is a different attitude, but some correspondence.
Next, people who regularly participate on wmb will give presents to reward people for not aborting.